Thursday, July 24, 2014

Goodbye Bondage



If I could describe these past 2 months in 1 word, I would say it would be FREEDOM.
Freedom from my patterns, my bondage, my perfectionism, my control.
And it has been so so beautiful. I’m very thankful.
The more that I am on this journey called life, the more I realize how little I have figured out. But I’m coming to a place where I am okay with that.
My identity is not tied in what I do, who I am married to, how much money I have, or what family I come from. My identity comes from being fully loved, delighted in, and adored by my Maker.
Does that mean I don't want to be a Licensed Professional Counselor so much it hurts?  Not have expectations for my husband? Not want bigger or better things? Not care about relatives/friends opinions? No, no, no, and no. I’m still human, and people/circumstances still affect me. But my worth is not determined by these things.
My worth is in Jesus. And because of that, I believe I am able to have a more grateful spirit. I’m able to love my husband more the way that Christ loves him (okay, a percentage of time I do that). I’m able to counsel from a place where it is overflowing in my own life, even if I’m an amateur counselor. I’m able to be free and transparent in relationships because I have nothing to hide.
This no longer is about having the picture perfect life that I once dreamed about.
No, this is about finding out more how God uniquely made me to be and learning to love well from this spot now- as a married, currently childless, professional, 25 year old living in VA. And I could not be any more grateful for where He has me now.
So, I know those valleys will appear again. I know I will so easily become entangled in the things that I feel free from now. I know change will happen and suffering will come. But for now, I want to remember how He’s worked in my life and hope to encourage others that He wants to do the same in yours.