We all have that desire inside.
For someone to know what our hearts beat to, what we get sad or angry at, what irritates us
For someone to know the nuasances and annoyances that each of us have and to still love and accept us - AND maybe even like those little quirks
For someone that we are just free to be with, without the pressure of performance
Being known is a beautiful thing
In our technological world, we are so hungry for it, and yet sometimes, it seems like we can even be known through our statuses or tweets or comments, or ironically our blogs more than we can in real life interactions.
It's nice to be known isn't it? Or for our thoughts and feelings to be noticed so quickly by so many people? . We have turned to databases in which we can be noticed instead of turning to someone face-to-face to be noticed. We can type all of our feelings out and yet never speak them to the person in which those feelings are directed to. This worries me that we have settled for something so lifeless to satisfy our deepest longings. We've become a little robotic.
It worries me in myself as well (as I write this blog mind you). I may not have the energy or time to make a call to someone I love to communicate to them, but I can check their profile and feel that I know them enough. I can mindlessly wander through my newsfeed and feel like I know people who I practically have not talked to in years. I can put all of my emotions and feelings and thoughts in a blog but not speak them to the people I do life with each day. It's so easy. It's so dangerous too. It's like we are living behind the shadow. We only come out fully if we are able to be in the shadow of technology. The shadow seems safe. There's an appropriate distance between us and the other person.
Because really being known and vulnerable is scary and messy. I don't always get to edit what I say afterwards. And I can't delete tears or anger. But it's easier. I would hands down any second rather text or email friends and family than have to call them. And I will probably keep doing it for times sake
But I believe as people we have settled for mediocre relationships. My generation and younger is really bad at this. I don't think we were intended to function that way. In fact, I don't know if we know how to function very well without the barriers of technology. This is so sad to me.
Real relationships require work.
There is space for sadness and frustration
There are awkward silences
There is mundane and boredom
There may also be belly laughter and awkward snorts
But isn't that part of being known? Isn't that part of doing life with people? Isn't that real?
I wonder what the journey back to being known for each of us is.
What's it like to come out of the shadow?
For someone to know what our hearts beat to, what we get sad or angry at, what irritates us
For someone to know the nuasances and annoyances that each of us have and to still love and accept us - AND maybe even like those little quirks
For someone that we are just free to be with, without the pressure of performance
Being known is a beautiful thing
In our technological world, we are so hungry for it, and yet sometimes, it seems like we can even be known through our statuses or tweets or comments, or ironically our blogs more than we can in real life interactions.
It's nice to be known isn't it? Or for our thoughts and feelings to be noticed so quickly by so many people? . We have turned to databases in which we can be noticed instead of turning to someone face-to-face to be noticed. We can type all of our feelings out and yet never speak them to the person in which those feelings are directed to. This worries me that we have settled for something so lifeless to satisfy our deepest longings. We've become a little robotic.
It worries me in myself as well (as I write this blog mind you). I may not have the energy or time to make a call to someone I love to communicate to them, but I can check their profile and feel that I know them enough. I can mindlessly wander through my newsfeed and feel like I know people who I practically have not talked to in years. I can put all of my emotions and feelings and thoughts in a blog but not speak them to the people I do life with each day. It's so easy. It's so dangerous too. It's like we are living behind the shadow. We only come out fully if we are able to be in the shadow of technology. The shadow seems safe. There's an appropriate distance between us and the other person.
Because really being known and vulnerable is scary and messy. I don't always get to edit what I say afterwards. And I can't delete tears or anger. But it's easier. I would hands down any second rather text or email friends and family than have to call them. And I will probably keep doing it for times sake
But I believe as people we have settled for mediocre relationships. My generation and younger is really bad at this. I don't think we were intended to function that way. In fact, I don't know if we know how to function very well without the barriers of technology. This is so sad to me.
Real relationships require work.
There is space for sadness and frustration
There are awkward silences
There is mundane and boredom
There may also be belly laughter and awkward snorts
But isn't that part of being known? Isn't that part of doing life with people? Isn't that real?
I wonder what the journey back to being known for each of us is.
What's it like to come out of the shadow?
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